I used to compare myself to other women constantly. Since joining the online community and talking more with friends who are also moms now, reminded me that we are all human and capable of failure. Do you know how many mom's I have met that seemed to have it all together? Yet they are hiding a tidal wave of emotions underneath. One phone call about their son's ongoing challenges at school, one bounced cheque, one incident of locking keys in the car, cracks their fragile veneer wide open.
I know that I am often my own worst enemy. Have you read my post responding to Mission Beautiful created by Jody at Mommy Moment? It's almost as though we need to punish ourselves to assuage the nagging guilt we feel. Guilt: If we work outside of the home, we feel guilty that someone else has our child all day. If we work at home, we feel guilty that our children might not get enough of the social interactions they might need. Worry: Are they eating enough? Are they eating enough of the right foods? Is their development on par with peers, and it goes on... At least it does for me.
I know some problems that pop up in life and parenting may very well be serious. Deal with them by educating yourself on possible options and get support. Talk to people that have been through the same situation, then make an informed decision. I am addressing the little things that pile into a mountain by the end of the week, or the problems I can't change. Worry and guilt over these types of issues is a
It isn't only a MOTHER issue, I think WOMEN in general can be unkind to themselves and may be their own toughest critics. I've been trying to work through some of the issues I have with body image, self-esteem, and punishing myself for the way I look (for not losing the pregnancy weight). How can I learn to love myself for who I am when I look in the mirror and realize I'm not very nice sometimes? Obsession with weight and appearance has become a smoke and mirrors effect to hide the fact that I have become a woman with a crusty attitude.
I have resolved today to choose contentment in every circumstance instead of
List of silly moments from the past week that seemed like a big deal at the time. (But had a happier ending after a little time to think and a little caffeine to calm me down).
- Sweet girl falling and blowing the knees out of her brand new tights in the parking lot walking into church. Yes, I had a full blown tantrum in the lobby :(
- Travel itinerary being changed by airline to a red-eye flight, I had another tantrum and gave myself a time out. After some thought-we will end up missing rush-hour traffic driving to airport now.
- Drop-kicking my cell phone and shattering it...The pieces were reassembled, it works ok except it seems to be stuck permanently on VERY LOUD.